Random order responses to the "Circle" question per Jean Clarke's book
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Topic |
( Archived ) Circle Question |
| 31 |
BONDING & GROWTH |
My baby isn't at all like I expected her to be! Help! |
- Hold your baby and look at her. Touch her often when you're not physically caring for her. It takes time to get to know one another.
- Let her grow on you.
- Close your eyes and just listen to her for a while.
- Your child may experience you as different, too. Take your time.
- You have already spent nine months together; draw on that.
- Don't feel guilty. Accept your feelings and take time to see your baby in other ways.
- Discover what it is about this baby that you do like, and write these things down.
- Everybody has a fantasy of what his or her baby will be like. You will adjust your expectations as you accept what she is.
- Examine your feelings without judgment. Let go of your imaginings.
- In her book, Between Generations, Ellen Galinsky reports that accepting "this baby" is a common task for new parents.
- The more you love your baby, the better she will seem to you. Loving takes time.
- You can't control everything. Instead, enjoy your baby and thank her for being who she is.
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